What a Good Woman is to a Good Man

You might be wondering “How is this guy going to tell a woman who she’s supposed to be to a Man?”

I’m not.

I’m going to tell you what she is.

*Disclaimer: A good woman is many things to a good man, but I want to emphasize that these are things she is for him not who she is in her entirety. Women are no more built to serve than Men are. Women do not exist for Men any more than Men exist for Women.* (you can send that hate mail to @RobImmortal tho)

1. She’s a Cheerleader

Black.Married.Fly. wasn’t my idea. It was my wife’s. From the concept, to the name, to the logo, that was all her. Guess what though? It wasn’t her passion. It was an idea she came up with for content for a media company I used to own. She came up with that idea because she wanted to see me win. She inconvenienced herself, she put her hand to the plow when I didn’t ask for help because she wanted to see me win. She is honest with me about my goals and ideas, because she wants to see me win. My happiness makes her happy, and she likes to see me happy. Even to the point that she ain’t just trying to cheer lead, she wants to help me run plays in to win the game.

2. She’s an Adviser

If Candace thinks i’m about to fuk up, she’s going to say something. She’s not going to let me drown if she know a couple of quick words could help dodge a world of hurt. I’m a firm believer that Men and Women are different (I said different not unequal). Women and Men are forced to see the world differently because of societal standards. Because of this she will notice things I may not have even realized are factors. She does this unprompted most of the time because she wants to protect her good man. Which brings me to number three.

3. She’s never “too good for you”

Candace takes care of me so I can take care of us. She’s got my back when I have to face the world and hold us down. The reason she is willing to do this is because she isn’t “too good for me.” A lot of women, especially black women, are forced to play multiple positions by society. She has to be strong without being a bxtch, smart without being threatening, independent without being cold, beautiful according to someone else’s beauty standard, driven without aggressive. She (especially Black Women) basically has to be hot while being cold. And even though I’m not a women, that shxt looks stressful AF. As a good man i’m sure you understand that already and have proven that she can be vulnerable around you. A good woman understands that a good man is going to protect her. She’s not going to have the attitude that she a good man is going to be on his own out here just because he’s a man. She’s not going to think “well I did it on my own so you should too.” Something I love about my wife is that she is instinctively inspecting my blind spots. When she is constantly checking for something I didn’t see coming. Guess what tho? I’m looking in I’m doing the same damn thing. I don’t need eyes in the back of my head because I know she’s watching my weak points.

A Good Woman is going to elevate a good Man by default. He doesn’t have a choice. If he’s a good man, his life will get better just because she’s there. Don’t get it twisted good women aren’t cheap. You shouldn’t be spending much money, but you will be spending time, you will be spending effort, you will be spending nerves.

That investment is worth it, tho. I’m living proof.

- Rob Immortal

Rob Immortal prides himself on being the 6'4" Black, loc'd, and Bearded version of one Daria Morgendoffer. The last male heir of a family of Misanthropic Bamas, he enjoys Oreos, exotic dancers, fine leather goods, and anything related to black empowerment. Entering the first stage of his evolution into a millennial curmudgeon, he writes on observations as a black married man.

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