Balance is something that is naturally occurring in nature. It is a phenomenon that without tampering can continue seamless and ceaselessly. Understand I am talking about Balance not symmetry or equality. The grass grows from the earth, the gazelle eats the grass, the cheetah eats the gazelle. They are not equal entities, but they are all necessary. If any of these parties become unbalanced, the equation becomes unbalanced, and will cause the destruction of the entire food chain. Example: If there are too many cheetahs they will overhunt and kill off their own food source. If there is too much grass, there is a possibility that the grass will disrupt another food chain by threating another plant food source. Typically, nature will balance itself when there is a disruption. If there is too much grass there gazelle populations will rise and in turn cause cheetah populations to rise. Humanity seems to be a gross exception to the natural cycle. While humanity is a creature that exists in nature, our elevated consciousness allows us to tamper with things to suit our goals.
Humanity as a group doesn’t lend toward balance, it lends toward natural proclivity. Often this can be to our benefit, such as the desire to make life easier through science and technology. It can also be to our detriment, such as the desire to be violent and destructive using science and technology.
So Who Cares?
Balance is important because everyone operates better with it. When you eat unhealthy food too much your body becomes unhealthy. When you don’t sleep enough your brain doesn’t work as well. At the same time if you exercise too much it will affect your body negatively and it will start to break down. Oversleeping (yes its possible) it is bad for your brain and is often a symptom of depression. The body and mind operate best with balance. You will find that if you work out and eat healthy your body and mind work better than if you didn’t. If you work or due a mentally stimulating activity 6-8 hours a day it is better for your brain. Does that mean you should never have a cheeseburger and never have a day off? Absolutely not! For most people that will eventually cause a crash. Your body and mind will eventually sink into an unhealthy state most of the time.
Nice so what does this have to do with me?
The interesting thing about balance is that its not one size fits all. Some people are fitness nuts. Working out, eating goat food (that’s what I call that green stuff you’re supposed to be eating all the time), and keeping 12% body fat isn’t just something they do, its their hobby. Its balance because eating right and working out are part of their lifestyle and is balance with their other goals. This isn’t one size fits all because if drinking is your hobby it will eventually wreck your body. Finding balance can be tough. You have to figure out for yourself what feeds your positive traits and what feed your negative traits. Next you have to form and list your goals. The most balanced lives are the ones in which most of your activities are those that feed your goals (assuming your goals don’t revolve around world domination)
Confession time: I am not a naturally Balanced Person. I have an addictive personality. I have had issues with alcohol abuse, I have been a workaholic, I have dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts, I had a hoe phase (yes guys have them too, some never grow past it). My biggest issue as it relates to balance is intensity. When I feel determined, when I get dedicated, when I enjoy something, my natural tendency is to abandon moderation. There was a time where if I was having a good time, I didn’t want to have couple drinks, I wanted to drink until I couldn’t see straight. If wanted that promotion or that bonus there was nothing, including food or sleep, that would keep me from doing what I thought was needed to get it. Most people admire tenacity and competitive fire. But at the end of the day it is still fire. It can cook your food when it is properly controlled, or it reduce a town to ashes when it is not. That competitive fire and addictive personality has been the reason for success in my professional life and capability in my personal life. It is also the reason that I had to leave a business that I care about and why I almost lost my marriage.
Balance is the self-moderation and discipline that allows you to build on personal goals without completely giving up recreation.
- Rob Immortal
Rob Immortal prides himself on being the 6'4" Black, loc'd, and Bearded version of one Daria Morgendoffer. The last male heir of a family of Misanthropic Bamas, he enjoys Oreos, exotic dancers, fine leather goods, and anything related to black empowerment. Entering the first stage of his evolution into a millennial curmudgeon, he writes on observations as a black married man.