A Special Day

My wife's Birthday is today so I figure id reflect on her impact in my life.

Thats MY Queen

Thats MY Queen


I'll start by saying this: I'm a grown man. If I have something I earned it. Even if it was gifted to me, hard work was required to maintain it. Even down to my height (6'4") and my hair length (22"). Were they genetic gifts? Yes. Did I have to eat properly and stay healthy to realize them? Yes.


My wife is no different. She was not a gift I earned through hard work she was a gift I kept through hard work. We met in the most random of ways (Listen to the PODCAST to find out how) but she wasn't something I was actively seeking. We lived 2000 miles away from each other and still managed to fall in love. As much as I think i’m the shxt, I am sure she didn't fall in love with something superficial. Mostly because I didn’t have shxt. Before Candace I had a dead end IT job, a 400 sq ft apartment, was a functioning addict to a number of things (might get into that in a later post), and a mostly grumpy person. And while that last one hasn't changed everything else has.


My career has been on an upswing since Candace showed up. A month after my future wife moved in with me got a call about a job and my salary doubled, 6 months after that shook one addiction, 6 months after that shook another, got a couple of professional certifications, joined a fraternity (Blu Phi!), made friends i'm sure will be life long, started a business, left it and started another one. All this happened over the course of about 5 years. Who I was 5 years ago was a shadow of who I am now.


Again I'm a grown man.


My wife didn't do any of those things for me. I had to do them all myself. She'll always be my side but she can't do my work for me. What she's done for me is provided motivation, she's helped me realize my potential. She's believed in me when I was too weak to believe in myself. Shes been that wise counsel who as a good woman can see things I can't. I've spoken in previous posts about what a good woman brings to the a good man's table. My wife has been all of that.


My wife takes care of me so its easier for me to take care of us. It might be some simp shxt to a man who doesn't know better but I make sure the only reason she's ever straining is because she going through her own growth process  Not going to lie, sometimes her growth is so she can deal with me. I'm not the hardest guy to live with, but i’m not the easiest either. I’ve dealt with some trauma in my life and have some head trips (that i’m working on) because of it. I’m a good listener, but i’m not the clearest communicator. I’m ambitious to a fault. Most during moat work weeks we may get to spend 30 min together because of the way I like to work in my professional and entrepreneurial life. Shxt, i even snore and if Candace didn't draw a line in the sand about that i wouldn't have a cpap now.


Bottom line is my wife doesn't just put up with my Bulllshxt. She takes it, plants me in it, and forces me to grow through it.


And if your woman ain't doing that for you, you're taking an L.


Happy Birthday Candace

- Rob Immortal

Rob Immortal prides himself on being the 6'4" Black, Loc'd, and Bearded version of one Daria Morgendoffer. The last male heir of a family of Misanthropic Bamas, he enjoys Oreos, exotic dancers, fine leather goods, and anything related to black empowerment. Entering the first stage of his evolution into a millennial curmudgeon, he writes on observations as a black married man.

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